If you’re reading this, you’re probably one of my few but devoted followers. Or… You’re probably someone who reacted negatively to a very basic question I asked you on a dating app.
What’s the longest you’ve ever dated a Black or mixed race?
It’s funny, because even the mere asking of this question has become the perfect racial Rorschach test. White people who have had a relationship with a Black guy tend to be non-fussed. They answer honestly and then often add something like, “Oh yeah. I see why you ask that. Makes sense.”
White people who have never dated a Black person long term before or have not yet exposed themselves to some basic implicit bias training or the fundamentals of white fragility often act EXACTLY as Professor Robin D'Angelo predicts.